Why You Want More in Your Career, and What to Do About It

Every one of my clients is looking for something more in their career and life.

But often, they feel guilty for wanting it.

They’re stuck wondering: Should they go after more, or should they just be happy with where they are and who they are now?

When you step back from those emotions, you see something ironic. In chasing more, you might miss the value of what you already have.

You might actually be content but don't realize it because you're too busy chasing happiness.

Wanting more isn't a bad thing, as long as it’s not about filling a void or coming from a place of feeling inadequate.

Think about this: What if you're happy with your life and career but open to trying new things?

That’s the difference between someone new to my coaching and someone who's been through the program.

At first, they see wanting more as a sign of something missing or an unnecessary desire.

It feels like there's a piece missing, which naturally leads to stress.

Feeling incomplete in your career can be tough.

But after the coaching process – getting clear on their goals, building a strong personal and professional brand, boosting their confidence, taking control of their work and life, setting boundaries, nurturing positive relationships, and prioritizing – more becomes an 'addition to' an already complete self.

That's a game-changer.

Think about where your desire for more comes from: Is it from a place of lack or from a place of feeling whole?

If it's to fill a void, you need to understand that void before going after more.

If it’s because you’re already fulfilled but still crave more, then embrace that desire.

As a young aspiring athlete, my pursuit of more came from feeling inadequate.

That feeling of 'lack' led to constant self-doubt, frustration, negativity, and a pretty bleak daily life.

Now, knowing who I am, aligning with my values, and being authentic, my pursuit of more is exhilarating.

It’s about seeking knowledge, experiences, challenges, novelty, and really embracing life!

By looking closely at our feelings before judging them, we can figure out what actions will truly benefit us.

Do you need to address a deficiency, or do you need to inject challenge and novelty into your life? Both ways of seeking more have their merits.

Both strategies bring clarity to perceived deficiencies and help you understand why you seek more, so you can appreciate the present for what it is, not for what it lacks.

That is the essence of living true to oneself.

Thanks for listening everyone,

Dr. Benjamin Ritter, Leadership and Career Coach, Live for Yourself Consulting

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